“You can speak your mind but not on my time”. – Billy Joel
This morning as I was enjoying a most delicious cup of coffee, thoughts were going through my mind. Recent discussions with different people have gotten me to thinking. You know, we all seem to love to feel good. At least I get the impression that it is something we seek and go after. But then this morning, while playing back in my mind various stories, vignettes in people’s lives, I got to wondering. Do we actually question the concept of “wanting” to feel good? I mean, do we see that as a selfish desire or a bad thing somehow? Do we talk ourselves into feeling guilty for feeling good? I wonder if we don’t let ourselves be influenced by others who resist feeling good…you know, “them”. I’ve come to the conclusion that some people would rather actually feel bad. It sounds strange to say but honestly, when I stop to think about it, I have to wonder. Okay, let me explain…
So here’s a scenario…you’ve been feeling down about this or that and things just don’t seem to be going your way. So you finally decide that it’s time to perhaps change a few things in an effort to move out of that space where you just aren’t feeling so good. And suddenly you hit upon something that makes you feel better and so you go with it, let go of other things and follow it through. You are now feeling better and figure out that if you continue along that vein, you can actually sustain that better feeling. You are happier now, feeling great even. You would think, perhaps even assume, that the people around you would be happy for you and maybe even inspired by the changes you’ve made. Yet you start to receive confusing messages. You confront resistance that leads you to believe that perhaps they aren’t as happy for you as you thought they’d be. Why? Why are they not happy to see you feeling better? Is there something wrong with feeling better and being happy? Is it actually more comfortable to feel like shit?
Yes, I’m perplexed because suddenly those things that people have been saying they want, when they see them happening for you or others (because you’re making them happen, of course), they don’t seem to be so happy about these positive changes and they want to bring you back down rather than come join you where you are…in the fun and the feel good. Whatever for???
It’s too bad that there’s such a negative connotation to the term selfishness. Doing things for yourself that make you feel great isn’t selfish one bit. In fact, it’s extremely generous because when you feel great, others benefit from that. Well, those who want to feel good too. Those who would rather whine and complain and carry on with their endless need to be the victim will resist you. What a shame. Feeling good is really a great place to be and so much easier. Do you agree?
Yes, yesterday I was angry. They got on my nerves and threw me off course. They took control of my life (ah, now it’s out of my hands!). Last night, I decided that I didn’t have to allow that. Today, it’s my day, my way and now I’m feeling great again! Because I decided that it would be so. And I shall carry that intention through the week and beyond… Me, I like to feel good!! Make it so, number one!
That’s right, yesterday I threw myself a pity party and succumbed to Daniel Powter. Love the song but today I decided that Billy Joel was a better attitude to work from today. (And by the way, I want to qualify the quote by Billy Joel above…I started my day dancing to Joel’s song and am speaking to them with that quote. So please don’t think it means I don’t want to hear from you. I am LOVING all your contributions, feedback, sharing and comments. Let’s keep talking…).
Check out how beautiful pure love, joy and exhilaration look! How do you think they’re feeling?